It's been a strange couple of weeks. The job is going well, but things aren't so great in the relationship area. After a lot of thought, I decided to take a break from the relationship, not really a break up, but just a break. I have great friends and a great family. I am finally working too, so why am I so sad? I've been really trying to figure that out and I came to the conclusion that I spend 95% of the time missing him and 5% of the time actually talking to him. At the end of the day I have so much stuff I want to tell him and he's not there, not answering the phone, not returning texts for hours or til the next day. We see each other maybe once a week. It's been like 9 months or something and it's been like this for probably the last 6 months. We talked about it last night and I wasn't sure what to do. He couldn't offer any sort of solution or say that he could be more available. The one thing he did say made things really clear all of the sudden though. He said maybe because I have more time on my hands and am not working full-time, I'm just lonely. That actually made me mad. If I wanted to go out with friends every single weekend I could. If I just needed a warm body, he could easily be replaced. I want him, not just anyone. I'm telling him I miss HIM and he just sees me as some pathetic lonely mess. At that moment I stopped crying and told him I wanted a break. I saw how he sees me. How can you be in love with someone you think is a sad little mess? I'm going to concentrate on me for a while. Maybe he can take some time for himself. I don't know. I'm not looking for another relationship. I really want that one to work, but it's really NOT working the way it is. I need more. I want to be a real part of his life, not an after thought. All I know is I feel like I did the right thing for me this time. It doesn't make me happy, but I had to do it.
I'm proud of you!
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